How to Stay Cool?
I’m not talking humidity and how you will keep your body in a perfect temperature here but I’m talking about the other meaning of “cool” in slang terminology. The slang meaning of cool is being awesome and the word awesome seems to have a different meaning depending on how or what it is about.
I am not saying that I am awesome, I don’t want to blow my own trumpet. Few friends asked me on how I keep myself genuinely okay to most of the situations. Let’s just say that they’re amazed on how I stay cool to whatever direction the team or the situation is asked to go. A previous manager of mine when I was still an apprentice nicknamed me “Ok ra” guy (“Ok ra” means “cool, whatever”) because whatever suggestion solicitation he asked from me I always answered, “ok ra”. I’m pretty sure he’s annoyed because he’s not getting any good advice from me.
Optimism, I think that’s what I always have when deciding things whether it’s for me or for someone else. I always believe that whatever direction we go we will always end up to what is fated for us to be or to have. They say, your decisions today shape who we are tomorrow, well yeah kind’a true but I believe that your tomorrow was already written a long time ago. We all have a mission here and every day we are working towards it even though we still don’t know what it is yet. So to some decisions that for me does not have an impact on what my mission is on Earth, I don’t invest so much energy towards it; I let fate decides for me because it does not matter, it’s just a little spice in life and will pass through. For example eating, it’s an essential activity for us to live and continue our life but choosing what or where to eat is not something that I invest my energy into because the goal is to survive, whatever food is available I’m cool though I have likes and dislikes but I can always configure my taste when the food is already on the table. I eat when I’m hungry and I mostly don’t follow a schedule because it does not matter for me. But if I have cravings I don’t think there’s a decision to make on that case unless of outside factors that will affect it which I can configure by pursuing it or not which is not important regardless of my decision.
If someone asked for some advice and I feel that it’s a step towards their fate, I only give them possible scenarios if they choose those directions and I let them decide.
Male vs Female
Males are creatures from Mars while Females are from Venus. Just a disclaimer, this is not a sexist post. Scientifically, male and female have different biological and anatomical structure. We may have similar organs and its functions but there is still a lot that is different, one of them is our body chemistry and hormones. The way we think is different, there are many factors that can be considered of its process but if we will disregard those outside factors what remains in the slate is the hormones/body chemicals we have in our body or brain. I’m not a scientist, but I assume you are aware that we are not magical creatures and our existence is backed up by science.
If the baby that is not exposed to environmental learning can decide the female babies will have a similar decision algorithm to other female babies and is different from the male babies decision algorithm. We are born in a blank slate but our canvas was weaved differently and it’s based on simple criteria: sex, and DNA. I have observed that females are keen to details, they are detail oriented while males are goal oriented. Males regardless of his gender are polygamous and Females will always take good care of her offspring.
I added this sex difference part of this post above because some of my female friends asked me how I managed to stay cool every time. They are complaining of simple items that they observe towards a person or to the situation, they put so much energy entertaining their pet peeves. The above are my advice, first, they have to understand that it’s difficult because that’s how women think so what they can do is control it, practice, and always be aware. Be optimistic, our life is not the same as the story of Filipino teleserye or telenovela. Life is not that cruel in reality, just be wise, know your priority, think ahead but not overthink. If you believe in God, knows that He will not forsake you nor put you in a situation that you cannot handle.
so, chill! 🙂